In 2014 God called Wiley and I on a journey that eventually lead us to make a miracle baby through IVF (invitro fertilization). You probably know our fertility story by now (click here and here to read more) but I’m so honored to share it because it is a true testament of faith. And I know SO many couples struggle with this same journey. I pray that our story helps give hope. When we realized that it wasn’t going to be easy for us to get pregnant, I didn’t really consider IVF as an option. At the time, I thought IVF was only for people with extreme circumstances but we walked the walk that God asked us to, and it led us to create a baby. And now I am so thankful we did.
In December 2017 I started taking shots for IVF. There are so many things that are scary and unknown about going through this process but, when we started, the most overwhelming feeling I felt was hope. It just felt right. I could list all of the ins and outs of IVF and explain to you how the whole thing works but its different for every person, every couple and every doctor. So I’m going to give a few details about our journey and if you are on this road, I hope you will ask me questions, I want nothing more than to encourage couples that are thinking about IVF.
I took a medication for about two weeks that helped the doctors regulate my cycle so that they would be able to control most things from there on out. Every night, Wiley would give me a shot in my stomach. I eventually started to get bruises and found that the area was really sore. A friend told me that I should try to give the shot to myself because I would be more aware of what hurt and didn’t. This helped a lot! I was so grateful for Wiley doing it but it helped for me to know where exactly to do the injection. After two weeks, we had an appointment to check on the progress and everything was going just as planned (thank goodness!).
That day, we started a series of 3 more injections that are called “stim shots” meaning they are designed to STIMulate your body for ovulation. At this point, I was taking up to 6 shots a day. I’d be lying if I said this wasn’t a little overwhelming at first, but it is something that you definitely get used to. You may remember me saying that I felt like I should be able to do brain surgery after the whole thing was over because there is a lot of medical “stuff” that goes into taking all of those injections! I began to feel tired and not as much like myself but nonetheless was still really excited to be doing it.
Fast forward to the last week before the big day, I went to the doctor for blood work and ultrasounds every other day to monitor progress. Each time, things looked great and we started to get really, really excited. Our doctors and nurses were so encouraging and helpful (if you don’t like your doctor, switch! It really isn’t worth staying with someone you don’t love). On February 26th we went in for my egg retrieval. During this process, I was under light sedation and felt nothing so it was easy breezy! We got 17 eggs from the retrieval and the doctor had nothing but good things to say. Five days later, we did a fresh embryo transfer (if you are curious about this, feel free to ask me more details) of a grade 3AA embryo. Until that point, this was the best day! I kept thinking “we actually transferred an embryo that could grow into our baby” and I was on cloud nine. Then, for the next two weeks we waited.
(These pictures show the amount of injections that are involved in the process. Throughout the whole process we did about 146 shots.)
Now you know what happened after that: we received the most wonderful phone calleconfirming that our little embryo made it and I was in fact, PREGNANT! The emotions that I felt throughout this whole process were all over the place. Mostly hope, but also stress and fear and simply a feeling of being overwhelmed with the thought of it all. I had a mild panic attack at one time when I allowed my head to take over my heart but I’ve learned that that’s normal. It can be terrifying knowing there is so much going into this and there is a chance that it might not work. But overall, I honestly could not be more thankful for IVF. It is giving us a baby BOY that I am thrilled to be a momma to.
These pictures are from our gender reveal party two weeks ago and it was the very best day so far! There were days when I thought I might not ever get to experience things like this and I am blown away at the fact that I do. We are thrilled to be expecting a sweet little boy and are so, so, so thankful for our story. When I was 13, my dad passed away and I’ve always wanted to keep his memory alive because I’m his only child and he was so special to me. When we were 17, Wiley and I talked about what we would name our children and over the years have gone through a lot of names. Before we got pregnant we decided to use names that meant a lot to us for our children.
This little boy will be named Wiley James Haithcock, and we will call him Jay (short for James). Jay was my dad’s and Wiley’s Great Grandfather’s names and I can’t wait to pass it along and see that name in a whole new light.
What a joy it will be! Here we are, preparing to be parents and reflecting on a story that made us strong, provides hope, reveals faith and one that is still being told.